Love. It’s the foundation of every single thing on the planet. It’s the energy that we arise from. It’s our nature, our core. It’s who we are without our limiting beliefs.
But are you like me? Do you sometimes find it FAR too easy to find flaws in those you love? Isn’t it exhileratingly painful to cut down our partner, picking apart every single microscopic way that they appear to be “less than perfect”? I’ve found myself holding an emotional magnifying glass up to my partner lately, at moments only choosing to see the flaws of our connection. I make a mental list of the ways I’m not getting the love I deserve. I see him as less. And it hurts…
Then a good friend of mine, who’s an amazing support in my life, was telling a tale that sounded awfully familiar. She too was holding her partner to the perfection fires, and was voicing this frustration to a woman at a recent workshop she was attending. The woman turned to her after hearing this loveless tale, and asked “But how do YOU love?”
It’s SO easy to get caught up in what others should be doing for us. How they should love. What they should give. Who they should be in order for us to feel fulfilled and cherished. But it is never the act of receiving love that is deeply satisfying. Yes, it feels fleetingly fabulous, I’ll agree. But the deeper, exhilerating, blissful experience of GIVING love is the true gift to ourselves and others.
Ask yourself this question: What are you doing for those you love? What are you contributing to the planet? How could you make someone’s day by doing the simplest of gestures? Where is it that you’ve forgotten the joys of giving?
Do it. And do it for the basic fact that it FEELS good to do so.
Now go put down that critical inventory list of others, even if just for 5 minutes — long enough to batt a smile at a stranger, or give a compliment to your sweetie. Go “love-up” someone – anyone – today. You’ll be glad you did (and so will they)!
