Hey there, Cutie-Patootie!
Let’s do a virtual snuggle-party today, and grab a warm cup o’ tea — while I tell you a very silly (but Soul-healing) story . . .
So, one day a woman was walking by, and spotted her neighbor, Lizzy, looking anxious and forlorn on the porch of her beautiful 2 story house . . . head in her hands . . . a sad, concerned look on her face.
The neighbor stopped to see what was wrong.
“Lizzy, what’s the matter?”
“I’ve lost a VERY expensive stone! And I can’t seem to find it ANYWHERE!!!“ grumbled Lizzy.
“Oh, NO! I’ll help you look for it!” the sweet neighbor eagerly offered.
As they both entered the house, Lizzy explained that this was a rare and precious gemstone handed down from her family.
Together the two women pulled the first floor of the house apart — gutting every room, looking inside every box, behind every door, underneath every piece of furniture.
Then they tackled the entire 2nd floor — tipping things over, dumping things out, and all-in-all dismantling everything in site.
But to no avail. The jewel was NOWHERE to be found.
That’s when the neighbor turned to the Lizzy and said:
“Lizzy, think carefully: Where do you LAST remember seeing it?”
Lizzy scrunched her eyebrows, cocked her head to the side, and after a long pause, finally said:
“Um… In the basement.“
And there was a strange, awkward silence.
The neighbor looked at Lizzy with a look of confusion, and said:
“Then WHY IN THE WORLD have we been searching the top floors FIRST!?!?!? Why didn’t we START in the basement???”
And Lizzy instantly said (as if it should be obvious):
“Well, the lights don’t work down there . . . So I figured it would be easier to look upstairs, where I can see everything better!”
And the neighbor shook her head, and walked out the front door with a huff . . . while Lizzy just kept searching, and searching, and searching upstairs — never to find her precious, long-lost gem.
The End.
OK, so WHY would I tell you this head-scratching story?
Because . . . well . . .
There’s a very good chance this is YOUR story, too.
You and I can do this SAME silly thing — all the time. (Mostly with 0 clue we’re doing it.)
And I know this because almost EVERY single one of the women I’ve worked with over the years has been doing this funny, fascinating thing, too.
Let me explain . . .
Sure, we all have issues. “Problems”. Stuck stuff. Insecurities. Wonky beliefs. Limited perspectives. Fears. Woes. And all around internal weirdnesses.
It’s no biggie. You’re not alone.
It’s that lovely “Bonus Boobie Prize” that comes along with the Human Brain . . .
Yet when you go seeking the solution to your challenges — there’s a high likelihood that your mind may want to point you AWAY from the real solutions — and toward neutral, non-triggering (and pretty darn pointless) places, instead.
So when you’ve got a pattern that keeps repeating in your life, or a stuckness you just can’t seem to shake, an annoying habit that won’t go away, or a down-in-the-dumps mood that hovers constantly over your head. . . that’s a pretty good sign that you may be looking UPSTAIRS (vs your BASEMENT).
Ye-Ol’-Trusty-Subconscious-Basement is a pretty darn amazing place — filled with boxes upon boxes of old (seemingly) unbearable pains, misperceptions, yucky moments, negative self-concepts, unquestioned thoughts, knee-jerk responses . . .
Basically all the hidden, “Untrue-Goo” that we’ve shoved down for a very, VERY long time.
Really, we’re all pretty much like Emotional-Hoarders: Each of our basements are so full to the brim, I’m surprised that most of our basement doors haven’t burst open already.
So here we all are, with basements more like psychological fun-houses . . .
And instead of breaking the lock on the basement door, grabbing the ol’ symbolic flash light, and trucking your butt down those creaky basement steps . . . most brains would WAY prefer spending eons scouring (pointlessly) UPSTAIRS for the “fix”.
. . . SILLY BRAINS!!!!!!
This is why I’m SO in love with the intuitive work I do with wonderful women like yourself — because I’m shown (usually within minutes) those hidden, hard-to-find patterns that usually have been eluding (and wrecking) women’s lives for DECADES.
But if you want REAL change, personal transformation and utter Unstoppability, you have to uncover and face these hidden blocks.
You have to go down into that basement of yours, root around in there, and find those hidden gems within!
You have to move TOWARD the pains you locked away a long time ago — and be brave enough to touch them, study them, and explore them . . . in order to FREE them.
And that takes a lot of strength. Self-honesty. Bravery. And chutzpah.
But WHY would we smart chicks run from these blocks in the first place?
Because your subconscious-mind locked away most of these basement-boxes back when you were just 1, 3, 5+ years old — when your young, innocent brain was pretty darn sure you were going to DIE if you felt or faced those icky feelings.
(No exaggeration.)
So you have to be willing to head downstairs, and turn on the lights. To dust off and open those boxes, to see what’s REALLY inside.
To FEEL them.
UNDERSTAND them.
EMBRACE them.
And LOVE them.
And no amount of running, distracting, dodging, or looking in all the wrong places will ever get you to the treasure you seek.
Yet it still bums me out that most women are trying their VERY BEST to heal, blossom and transform — but 98%+ of the time, they’re searching everywhere BUT where the actual problem lies.
- I’ve worked with women wanting to build businesses, only to spin their wheels doing everything EXCEPT the most vital, lucrative actions — because hidden feelings of unworthiness had them avoiding all possibilities for rejection or vulnerability.
- I’ve worked with women who’ve spent money on cars, clothes and bling — because they believed this external “stuff” helped them feel successful, important and worthy (vs. finding that love within themselves) . . . which spiraled them into financial ICKINESS!
- I’ve worked with women who have tried every healing technique in the book – never realizing that they were still subconsciously using those tools to actually run AWAY from other deeper hidden pains instead.
- I’ve worked with people turn down Divine Partnerships – only to chase the HOTTIES instead, assuming that their rockin’ libidos MUST be a sign of “True Love” – only to learn the hard-way that they were actually chasing old, unhealed childhood triggers instead.
- I’ve worked with chicks try losing weight by sheer willpower, calorie restriction and mega-exercising – only to repeatedly gain it back (because they never addressed the underlying emotions they were trying to shove down with food).
And the list goes on and on . . .
The complexities and subtleties and almost-indiscernible hide-and-go-seek games we can play with our mental basements are a vast, wild (and frustrating) thing, indeed.
. . . But becoming conscious of this pattern is the HUGE first step!!!!
So this week take a fearless evaluation of yourself and your life, and answer the following questions:
- What repeating patterns do I see in my life? (In areas like: love, health, career, finances, emotions, relationships, dreams, etc.)
- If there might be a deeper root cause for this problem, what might that be? (Let yourself brainstorm, and don’t worry about getting it “right” or figuring it all out…)
- If there was something I have been too afraid to face or feel beneath the surface, what is it? (Again, let yourself be willing to explore new ideas or possibilities…)
I can address different techniques and approaches, depending on what you uncover. But becoming aware of the REAL issue is Key #1.
Always remember: No matter how long you’ve spun in circles, no matter how many walls you’ve bumped up against, no matter how many heartbreaks, “failures” or catastrophes you’ve lived through . . .
You might actually be MUCH closer to the answer than you ever could imagine.
And I promise: You are NO different than all the other Unstoppable Women I’ve watched transform before my eyes in my private practice.
Sure, it usually takes some work. Some patience. Some ongoing effort. But once you’re FINALLY headed in the right direction, it’s just a matter of time before you get there.
(But no amount of struggle, work, or effort in the WRONG direction will ever lead you to where you long to go.)
So with that — HUGE BIG GIANT LOVE comin’ attcha!
Till the next week…
